Hello Rizza, 

People who suffer from such personality disorders are constantly battling with their own thoughts, doubting themselves and often regretting their own actions- even when justified. 

Such people drown in their own guilt, and always feel as if they are beyond saving. They are unable to come to terms with themselves, always unbalanced, and no amount of support a friend can give is ever too much. 

Your friend may feel lonely at times. He may feel as if no one could ever truly understand him, and that he is the only one fighting a silent war against a much more powerful force. In this war, your friend may not always come out as the successor, and in those cases, he might turn to drugs to wipe away all emotions. 

For many depressed people, drugs is an easy way out of things, as they wipe away all worries and allow a person to be free, temporarily. However, not many ever realize that drugs- even weed- leave long term affects which eventually just add to the suffering. 

Discourage your friend from resorting to drugs when things become tough. Instead of letting him go astray, guide your friend. Become his backbone. Often, when people experience personality disorders, they are unable to see the world for the beautiful wonder it truly is.

You must be his own window, giving him a full view of the happiness the outside world celebrates, and let him stick his head out the window; allowing him to experience it with you. Don’t let his thoughts wonder too far, because in these cases, a person’s own mind is what usually brings them down. 

You must show him that no matter what he goes through, and no matter how he changes, or how he chooses to be, you will always love him for who he truly is. Make him realize the very essence of awesomeness his personality beholds. 

You know your friend far better than we do, therefore only you can magnify his good habits, and show him how amazing he is. You must show your friend that you care, and no matter how society makes him feel, you love him enough to be the reason that he should pull himself together.

In these situations, every little thing you say and do make a difference to the suffering victim. Every time you text your friend, asking, “How are you feeling?” or every time you remind them that you love them, or every time you make them laugh, only makes them feel that they are cared for. And sometimes, just caring can cure the worst of things. 

When you’re with your friend, you must never waver or hesitate. You must be confident- even if you don’t feel so- and you must be the one to show you have everything under control. Never hesitate to speak up if you think your friend is about to do something regrettable, and make sure you try your best to stop them. 

If you show that you know what you’re doing, they will have half their worries lifted, because they will have someone to guide them. You friend needs another half, who experiences what he does, and shines light upon the darkness clouding their mind. You must always be positive, and make your friend smile. 

Give advice, and never pity. Sympathize with your friend, but not long enough to leave them whirling off in their own mind and leaving doors open for opportunities to lose control. 

In simple words, just love your friend, and show them that you do. Don’t stay within four walls. Go out of your way to show them. And do it like you mean it.

Sincerely,

Noah and team.  

Dear Anon,

Thank you for submitting your question. 

Child abuse is the act of making a child feel ugly emotions. Making a child feel sad, lonely, unwanted, ignored, hurt, etc, are all acts of child abuse if done harshly and without reason. 

Child abuse can involve either physically hurting a child, verbally mistreating them, or even, making them feel unwanted by continually ignoring them.

Many people struggle to see the difference between discipline and abuse. 

To discipline a child, one must first attain their respect. Once you have gained a child’s respect and trust, you automatically develop a deeper understanding and healthy and loving relationship with them. Such children who are raised with love and support can easily be trained to be obedient if they are raised with strict morals which have been taught to them with care, effort, patience, and tenderness. 

Teaching a child to be obedient is all in the way one handles a child. Many say that to discipline a child requires the adult to be harsh, distant, tough, and severe. This is not the case and the people who think it is have simply blinded themselves with the sense of power. These are the people we call abusers. The ones who always wish to be in control and inflict their power and authority upon others, in ways which may affect their loved ones for life. 

What so many of our world’s population fail to grasp is that there is a big difference between respect and fear. A child will truly respect you and be obedient if you respect them, and remind them that you care. If you truly love someone, you must never present yourself in a cruel way towards them. 

If you treat a child well, they will be raised to truly believe in the morals which you bestow upon them, and those morals will be the guidelines that child will use to make their future brighter and set themselves apart from the average crowd. 

If you force your rules upon a child, he or she will never truly respect them and will only follow them as long as you are around, for the sake of the fear which they hold in their heart for you. If a child is afraid of you, they will never truly admire or appreciate you. They will grow tired of you, and soon, once they are older, that fear will turn to hatred, and they will fight back. 

Any sort of action which causes a child to develop fear or any ugly emotion in themself for you, is child abuse. Childhood is every person’s golden age as, in that period, a child will create memories which they will remember for the rest of their lives. Anything you do to ruin or cause a child to regret those memories is child abuse and must be stopped.

Absolutely anything in this world can be done with patience and love- it just takes time. You must be strong. Only the weak resolve to foul tactics in order to make a child do their bidding. 

Sincerely,

Noah and team. 

Dear Anon, 

Thank you for coming to us. 

First of all, you must know that no matter how alone you feel, you will always have us by your side, supporting you every step of the way. We will help you get back up everytime you fall, and we will continue to do this for however long you need us. We care about you. Never forget that. 

Depression caused by verbal abuse is very common and often makes a person feel uncared for, although this is never the case. There is always someone out there thinking of you, worrying about you, caring for you. Someone who loves you. 

You must always keep that in the back of your mind. In this world, no one is alone. We are all here to help each other. Some just get a little lost along the way, by turning into bullies, or sometimes the victims. 

We will never abandon you. We will always be here. And we need you to realize that no matter what others say to you, no matter what they call you, it is never true. People who make you feel bad about yourself are always the people that have never truly been able to understand you. They don’t see your brilliance, and it is a true shame, as that is their loss. 

All these people who verbally abuse you are just playing twisted mind games, trying to trap you in their web. But now that you have found us, you can escape. It’s easy. 

These mind games are played on many people all around the world. They are made to make others feel ugly and unimportant. But that is all a lie. You are beautiful and unique. You are unique because there is no other like you in this world. You must bring that through and show the world who you truly are. 

You must show the bullies that their game is over and that can play with you no longer. Just because one says you are a monster, does not mean that you truly are one, or will ever become one. You will not. You are an amazing person and you have different passions, different likes and dislikes, different tastes, which set you apart from the average crowd. 

We are proud of you for that. All you need is to be proud of yourself too. You have the right to be able to respect yourself for who you are. You must never be ashamed. You must walk down every street and every school hallway with your head held high. You are an extraordinary person, and we are happy to be able to help somebody as fantastic as you are. 

That is what you must show. You must show that strong person who we know you to be, and you must bring it out. You must show the bullies that their useless words no longer have an effect on you. Everything they say is a lie. Anybody who makes you feel bad is pointless with no aim in life. They wake up with ugly thoughts, which they then take back to bed with them the next night. That is their life.

It is sad that so many let these kinds of people run their lives- but no. No more. This ends here. Show them who you are. And remember that you are never alone. At times, you may fall down again, but we have faith in you, and know that you will get back up each time, and fight the ugly words with even more strength than before. 

Sincerely, Noah and team. 

Thank you for the good wishes! We wish you the very best of luck in your recovery and hope that you continue to keep in touch even when you don’t need us! We will indeed always be here to help! 

Sincerely, Noah and team.